This was a really great question and a tough situation for the poor writing. As a person who is always feeling like I've enthusiastically given more than I've taken (I'm a people pleaser, proud to be the good friend, writer feedback pal, all around good listener) but also feels I can't ask for equal efforts in return. And Yanyi's reply is so on point, the line "it’s overworking for relationships that should have been nourishing us in the first place." very much resonated for me. Also, the last paragraph is my new friend mantra! I wish I I knew Harvey Fierstein so he could record it for me like he yelled at his mom (Anne Bancroft!) in Torch Song Trilogy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdmPoTTbigw
This was a really great question and a tough situation for the poor writing. As a person who is always feeling like I've enthusiastically given more than I've taken (I'm a people pleaser, proud to be the good friend, writer feedback pal, all around good listener) but also feels I can't ask for equal efforts in return. And Yanyi's reply is so on point, the line "it’s overworking for relationships that should have been nourishing us in the first place." very much resonated for me. Also, the last paragraph is my new friend mantra! I wish I I knew Harvey Fierstein so he could record it for me like he yelled at his mom (Anne Bancroft!) in Torch Song Trilogy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdmPoTTbigw